Techa Oungerachel (Who Is In Charge)

By Santy Asanuma —-

Being interested in people not only individually but as a group, I am always looking for things that are important to them or that can affect their life. In recent years, I have closely paid attention on how people deal with each other in their small circles such social clubs/groups or families. A social phenomenon (tekoi el di mrael mo klou ra beluu) that I have realized is it is becoming harder to pinpoint who is in charge (oungerachel) of anything. This may sound insignificant (ng diak a belkul) but I think this is the center of social disorder (klou a raureng ra beluu ra chisel a beluu).

Gathering at the morgue is developing into another customary practice without clear protocols (llechul ma teletelel) to follow and engage so one can be in conformity with the local traditions. I have asked number of knowledgeable people what are the set traditional principles that govern this additional step in the funeral process and none seems to cite such rules or norms. So it becomes dependent of personality and the ability of the ones who are either most educated or in public office like senator or director or being bold (bekeu e diak a rengul) enough in character to speak in a crowd.

The “chiioll” (the one we must wait for because he is culturally should be in charge) is usually looked over because in this new system it is all in the looks and not based on propriety of how things are done culturally. Then coolers full of drinks and sandwiches are becoming to be required at the morgue. Are these parts of the blals (account for the funeral) already? And there are women sitting inside the waiting room while most of the men and rest of the people are sitting outside or filling the immediate surroundings of the morgue.

There are times it is not clear who should speak. Even the one who is predestine (melanges el mo ra dui) to the chiefly title refuse to speak because he or she is disgruntled with some family or clan affairs before this event. Or He or she is totally not capable of speaking in a crowd which has become a required ability at the morgue.

Then there is the meeting to be called. I have heard that because family members are in the initial shock of loss of a loved one or just trying to safe face they quietly agree to everything by this must put up deliberation at the morgue. Again there are no established protocols so there is no recourse for those who disagree. So there are cases where people will call each after the fact and hold a different meeting at a different place not following the morgue deliberation.

Then there is the question of the co-ed meeting between the rubak and mechas. Can the rubak deliberate on the food preparation and sailengir a rebuch el sechal (reward for service by women married into the family)? Who is in charge here? And why it is not clear anymore as to why the money contributions to a funeral of relative have to be announced to other relatives gathered? What is purpose of this and the many things that we without asking questions? Can somebody take charge so we can make sense of what is happening?

2 Comments to “Techa Oungerachel (Who Is In Charge)”

  1. from what i’ve heard ea morque a private. a chad loungerachel er ngii a kirel loungerachel period.a siukang a kirel mora obliil. I stand to be corrected. endi alsekum eng under ra government , screw it , it will take time to get fixed. sulang,

  2. Good question e Santy…My take on the whole thing is more in line with what Ms. Maidesil said and that, at the morgue there is no traditional or customary rule per se, but a that of the family or clans own way of dealing with each other in that situation. I would also add that if a rule or a person in charge is wanted then it would be the morgue attendant or person of the morgues governing body.
    If the people el meseked era morgue a choltirakel a lechul eng diak kisa problem. How the people deal amongst themselves regarding the processes, whatever they are in the morgue is really up to that family or clan. Who are we to decide or speak to how another clan of family deals with such a situation. Mea siukang er kid meng diak el sodii tial beches el teletael meng locha kired el di moltirakel a lechul a morgue mea klechad ea rokui a di moungil. Adang.

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